Bible Reading: Proverbs 15:1
Fights – wars of words – can destroy relationships. Rather than verbally attacking others, we should remain calm, and work to guide tension-filled situations to a positive
ending. We should remember Solomon’s instruction in Proverbs 15:1, “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” Here are some helpful suggestions:
* Take time to really listen before you say anything.
* When someone does or says something that hurts or irritates you, promptly tell them what they’ve done and how it makes you feel.
* Refuse to be caught in a cycle of growing hostility. Don’t respond to angry words with angry words.
* Stay on topic. Don’t blame, patronize, call names, divert attention to some other topic, or dredge up past events.
* Watch your body language and tone. Keep you body relaxed and your tone neutral. Many fights start not because of what was said but because of the way it was said.
When you do get angry, and you will, don’t let anger push you to act in anyway that could physically, emotionally, or spiritually hurt another person or damage their belongings. Don’t let anger become a bitter grudge; deal with it quickly. Don’t let the devil use your anger as a way to get into your life. Remember to follow Paul’s advice: “In your anger do not sin": Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold” (Ephesians 4:26-27).
Prayer: Heavenly Father, help me to treat people with love and respect, even when I’m angry. In Jesus’ name. Amen.
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